Initiating and pursuing is the not-Self strategy of over 90% of all Human Being alive at this time. Wow! I guess it’s no wonder why our world can feel chaotic and confusing. There are billions of unconscious souls living their life according to their mental and physical conditioning. When you look around your world do you see bitterness, frustration, exhaustion, resistance and/or disappointment? Do you see yourself and others in a hurry, trying to get attention, wanting to prove yourself worthy, or certain?
Even though we fall prey to our conditioning, we have a road map that clearly indicates what is correct for us and who we are authentically. There are clear signs that show us when we are living in harmony with our authentic Self and when we are being our conditioning.
Last weekend I was at a dinner party with a group of women. I was meeting several of the women for the first time. The conversation was lively! As I sit at the table silently (open Throat Center) I felt like I was about to burst, hoping someone would ask me a question. The pressure to speak continued to build and at one point I heard myself say “oh yes, that has happened to me too.” The conversation continued as if I had not said a word. I sat back in my chair with a smile and laughed inside at my not-Self. (The not-Self theme of an open Throat Center is initiating and trying to get attention) I found humor in catching myself acting out of my conditioning. Eventually, I was asked a question and joined the discussion.
The not-Self themes are always present. Students often ask me if they can “get rid of” the not-self. It is not something that can be abolished or eliminated. It is your humanity. Experimenting with the HD knowledge and your strategies bridges you to wisdom and your authentic Self. Had the situation I mentioned happened before I understood my Design and the conditioning of an open Throat Center I would have felt rejected or hurt. Instead I observed and remember my map that shows me what is correct for me.
Each Type has a not-Self theme and strategy as each Center. Learning and experimenting with the themes and strategies is the foundation of the Human Design System. We can all make our world a better place by simply stay on our course. We can replace the chaos and frustration with pure essence and acceptance of (not) Self and others.
Wishing you safe travels.
